My husband has called me “consistently inconsistent” for years—long before either of us knew I was autistic or ADHD—and he’s always laughed at how unpredictable I can be. I never understood what he meant because, honestly, I make perfect sense to me. What I didn’t realize is that my autistic brain and ADHD brain are…

I’m AuDHD, which means I’m both autistic and ADHD, and sometimes it feels like I have two brains arguing with each other all day long. My autistic brain craves routine, predictability, quiet, and knowing exactly what to expect, while my ADHD brain wants novelty, spontaneity, excitement, and something new to chase. One part of me…

Sometimes when I’m speaking, I can’t find the right words, and the longer the pause, the more anxious I become. My mind immediately starts racing: they’re not interested, you’re annoying them, hurry up and get to the point. The anxiety makes it even harder to find the words I was looking for in the first…

I want to be an extrovert — I’m not. I want to make small talk — I’m not always sure how. I want to be invited — I’m often not, and usually that’s perfectly okay. I want to be funny, ask good questions, and know exactly when to laugh — but those things don’t always…

I heard someone say, “I overshare so I’m easier to tolerate,” and wow, that hit me hard because I think that’s exactly why I do it sometimes. The other reason I overshare is because I’m trying to connect and show that I genuinely understand what someone is going through because I’ve had similar experiences. But…